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Why do two people who love each other keep having the same fight?
In this free guide, Ray Rivers, LCPC, a licensed psychotherapist and marriage coach, explains what is really happening inside you both when a fight starts, and what you can do to start turning it around.
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- Written by Ray Rivers, LCPC, who has guided couples for over 30 years and has been married to his wife Maria for just as long
- Works if you read it together, or if you are the only one ready to begin
- About 25 minutes to read, with short reflections that turn it into your own plan
You are tired of the arguing, the miscommunication and the walking on eggshells.
- You have had the same fight so many times that you could recite both sides from memory.
- You have tried talking, tried not talking, tried counseling and tried reading everything you could find.
- You keep hurting each other, even though that is the last thing either of you wants to do.
- And quietly, you have started to wonder whether something between you is just broken.
It isn't. Ray has seen this pattern in thousands of couples, and it has a cause you can understand and change.
For couples who love each other but keep having the same fight, Ray's guide shows you what is really happening between you when a fight starts and the eight foundations to put in place, in about 25 minutes of reading, without needing your partner to agree first, so the love underneath it all has room to come back.
The eight foundations every couple needs before the tools can really work
Most couples jump straight to a technique for what to say when the fight starts, and it collapses the first time the stakes get high. Ray's guide builds the foundation first, so that what you learn next actually holds.
- 1Conflict is your chance to grow closerFrom "something's wrong with us" to "this is the path to love"
- 2Understand your automatic protection systemWhy a fight takes you over, and the False Fire Alarm practice that calms it
- 3Know your real needsWhy you are never really fighting about the dishes
- 4Own your goalsFrom lack of clarity to a shared purpose
- 5Resolve to succeedHow to prepare for the hard moments before they arrive
- 6Commit to yourself first: no more fightingFrom waiting on your partner to owning your power
- 7Embrace your partner's sideFrom seeing an opponent to seeing a mirror
- 8Love your partner, and heal each otherFrom surviving each other to healing each other
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Ray Rivers is a licensed psychotherapist (LCPC), a marriage coach and the founder of Relationship Remedy. He has been married to Maria for over 30 years, and says that today they couldn't have a serious fight if they tried, not because they are special, but because they learned what was really happening between them and did the work. This guide is where he starts every couple.
This guide is for you if…
- You love each other, but the same fight keeps coming back
- You have tried talking it out, or counseling, and it didn't stick
- You are ready to start, even if your partner isn't yet
- You want to understand why it keeps happening before you try another technique
Questions people ask first
Is the guide really free?
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Do we both have to read it?
No. Ray wrote it for couples, or for one partner who is ready to begin. Reading it together is wonderful, and reading it alone still changes how you show up.
Is this therapy?
No. It is an educational guide written by a licensed psychotherapist, built from the same foundations Ray uses with the couples he coaches.
What happens after I sign up?
The guide arrives in your inbox straight away, and Ray follows up with a few short emails to help you put it into practice. You can unsubscribe at any time.
Most couples wait far too long to get help.
The Gottman Institute says couples wait an average of six years of being unhappy before they get help, and by then the same fight has had years to set in. You don't have to wait that long. The guide is free, it takes about 25 minutes to read, and you can start it tonight.
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